Re: the therapist. Yes, to the blaming me thing. Holy hell, they fly up in my face! That said, weve never censored anyone on this site and were not about to. It doesnt matter if its good enough for someone else. I would just not say another word about sny of it. I have never been the type to go through phones or emails but I discovered Im not too bad as a PI. We need to be to be able to express freely and without constraint. Seriously? Which was the polar opposite of his attitude the day before. She didnt say she was outraged for what he had done to ME. Im still pondering Christmas and the holidays generally. Thank you both for the support and advice and also Sarah P. and Butterball too. It was more like not allowing her in the group. I dont feel like OW is in the picture and as a strict rule I never mention OW anyway. Lol. They are desperate little buggers!! Yes in the end hes my son and I love him. Dont worry that you broke down in front of him.sometimes they need to see the hurt that they are causing. I wouldnt mention it if it was a non profit thing but Im pretty sure its a commercially beneficial situation. Emotions are raw.with regard to infidelity. We all get a little bored in life and maybe he is enjoying the drama. Lawyers and accountants are now doing their ritualistic dance. We had lots of fun together. And those of us that face it and deal with it w/out choosing other behaviors to avoid it are the true warriors on my book. Life goes on, can I choose to live in it? If she found herself in a group where people were swearing, gossiping, or doing other things she felt were distasteful, she either got up and left the group or said nothing at all. Hes fine. Thanks for your truly excellent advice though. There was a purity before the affair. So of course I didnt sleep that night and I made another decision. Good. You can unsubscribe anytime. Regardless of anything that happens she will not get my happy ending. I still laugh at this one. Do something you enjoy but I know from experience theres not much to enjoy!!! I asked if we could talk, go to MC. I asked God, Why are you taking me through troubled waters? He said, Because your enemies cant swim. . That way I wont get triggered. And yes I will let a few fly when in certain situations. Sigh. I think it takes sheer determination and strength of character to get through your spouses affair. OK I will go to counseling to facilitate a divorce (not actually said but implied motive). Please pray for my son, hes starting to go through his mourning process in regards to his mother. I cant tell you how many times I asked myself why are you doing this to yourself! No one will ever have that much control over my life again. What got me and still hurts is how smug and flippant my wife was with me. She seemed to think there would be no R. But when I asked her how she knew that she couldnt tell me why. She knew what she was doing. I am sorry this has happened at a time when you should be happy and joyous with your new baby. Ive never thought of it that way. TH: When I told him I loved him. It has helped take a step back so many times..and sometimes its amazing how that can change the dynamics of what is going on. Who is anyone to dare to put a timetable on your grief?? This is what made things very real for my h. He thought he would manipulate me into going along with his charm and ability to sell ice to Eskimos and I was so stupid I would agree to sharing one lawyer! Stand firm and be clear with your decisions. I need the honest answers. What is Walkaway wife Syndrome? Insomniac. I want this site to be a place where people can speak their own truth and feel safe and where they can communicate and be themselves. Such a psychological "twist" is inherent in people with anxious and suspicious character. Find one that is well versed in infidelity. I almost forgot your Hs OW is no longer alive. I helped him start a business and am co-owner in the same business that now employs quite a few people. I too suspected he was using drugs I even asked him! He was pretty adamant about d too. But life is long. Hard to watch but he did the right thing. I love you but Im just not sure that Im in love anymore It came after I indicated one of the D outcomes and he stormed out. The generosity of everyone here is humbling and has definitely created breakthroughs for me. I have seen it happen and then watched every relationship after that implode. In bags or boxes. Scary odd. Now that hes said I would, but cant. Previous to DDay we were talking about developing it into another business and I was going to manage it. Arm load after armload of stuff. They make no sense. Thanks, Puzzled. Has anyone had experience with this and how to R? I was determined that my husbands poor choices wouldnt make me hard and bitter. You have the patience if Job. Well found my anger again for real and good this time after my first intial shock anger of DDay evening. Of course she is! He might need to put some more space and distance away from the A to make it all ok again and as TFW says it has to be his idea to R. ShiftingImps, I already said Postnup and MC are my conditions, he became angry when I said that. He keeps storming off when I say or ask something he doesnt like. Your H also seems to have recognised how big his mistake was. Trying Hard, Im going to take your advice and plan a few days at a retreat in a weeks time. Be forgiving of yourself and go outside and enjoy the simple things. He can CHOOSE R at any time. [As an aside: maybe you could put in a claim or sue the OWs estate. I lost weight I could not afford to lose. Well, laughter and tears, in order to "not live", we will leave on his conscience, although in cases when lovers run away on the porch of the registry office, someone has to cry. You dont have to be. Satori So I confronted him and said choose. Technology now just means it can escalate quickly off the scale. I can only imagine their discomfort holy fuck Im stuck on a 3 hour flight with a woman crying next to me! But it took 2 years into recovery for him to get it. You know what my dear , this is such a sticky place to be. WTF does that mean??? Looking forward to that moment though, gotta say. Im not sure how to find one that would be good for my situation. Dont throw the baby out with the bathwater, so to speak . Runaway brides have probably suppressed their hesitations and their feelings that they are making a compromise for a long time till these begin to bubble, or rather to explode, on the surface. Thanks anyway Dad. His family to this day does not know what happened. The worst thing is PILS + wider family scene will be told that negative stuff about me and our M as if its true to protect Hs image. This betrayal will change you and your feelings. and/ or (b) she is trying to look supportive to me to try and get info from me. Thats why I cried all the way home on the plane like some kind of menopausal psycho!!! and thats when I blew ENOUGH to him as well. Maybe you had parents similar to mine. It could also be that she wanted to subtly let me know that there would be no R ( maybe acting on instructions from my H) as MIL baulked when I queried how she knew that, since she said she had not had any conversations with her son about the situation. Hi Satori In this case, I just want to ask: "Where did you look before?". Haha we all drove our mates to choose poorly because it serves us so well. He may have anther woman on the side. Ah.it all makes sense now, lol!!! when you fall down, No one left me alone for a week after that. I cant wait to hear about your trip. I was nervous to reach out on here but Im losing my mind and it is 4am. So its in no way a neutral thing. Almost 4 months was enough for me. Decide on your path and know that your direction will work out for the best. My CH decided that his plan would be to tell me at the end of the summer what he wanted to do. Maybe even about the business if you can. Since Satori did not breed on our expectation / unspoken demand (and even though GoldenCHild did not want children yet) we endorse Satori being punished for no reason because of this. This shit is real. But in his current state he is acting like a spoiled child who wants everyone around him to fix his problems. So during A periods they lose their common sense and themself. So much so that on the actual days he had started sleeping with this person, even though I was in another country I felt something for a couple of days, was very teary and emotional for absolutely no reason. It has been a lifeline. This is toxic. 2 months of pure anger came pouring out of me. Focus on your business and financial well being first. The long and the short of it is that every time I have confronted him or turned the tables, I have bit by bit gotten him to act a little more like his old self with me, and if anyone has an MLCer, you know how hard that is to get them to do. Eventually I went in the house and they put me to bed. And then I stormed off. I wont even go to the grocery store that I usually go to. If he refuses to sign, then H is not only going to need to strap in, he is legit going to need a Humvee for the rough terrain ahead. Maybe it will also help with a break and me being uncontactable while Im away (Im not saying where Im going etc). The reasons that lead a guy to run away from his girlfriend are similar to those that lead a girl to abandon marriage. I understand you cant pray for your H yet. And your H seems very concerned with HIS quality of life if you R. He doesnt seem as concerned about the quality of your M if you R.???????????????????????????????? I vote go to Italy. If you stick to them, the fear of getting married (getting married) will certainly go away. Not to mention if she wants to immigrate to here eventually, shed already be on file and not in a good way. 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If GoldenCHild is unhappy then we might be impacted and since our happiness trumps even GoldenCHilds that means we cant have our life undisturbed and that is more important than anything. You know, we all think when we say yes to the proposal and then we say I do in the vows that this is a final thing. I dont talk to any friends about this Such is the power of my imagination. See things as a challenge not a hindrance. It is so helpful to hear about your experiences, but Im so worried that because H has already left the home and even now has moved again to another suburb even further away, R is looking bleak. So you did the right thing not taking her bait. And to think your Hs actions inspired someone else to do the same thing. It is no understatement to say that going there saved my life. Cheaters do it but so do BS. Right ?!? Some guys buy a sports car or develop a new hobby or seek extreme sports or become a writer. Just come over, lets have some Thai takeaway and watch a movie, we can just chill out. More tears. Lying, cheating, ignoring the me and our kids, treating me like an enemy: this was just not her. Just wow. Bad thing is if hes not working you may have to pay him support!!! LOL. Talk about RALMAO!!!! I dont now anything about laws in other countries other than what Ive heard about in European countries. ! Oh boy. He refused any help. I hope this helps and I continue to send good thoughts your way. I for one will not be censored or castigated by my words. He travelled extensively and he would come home to rooms painted (by me) or work done in house etc. Because guess what, they are reconciling and now I have to do cleanup on our relationships and Im too damn old for this crap!! I would move furniture in front of exit doors when I went to sleep. Lol ask me how I know ???? You need some kind of court injunction to allow you to continue your business without him. If your body starts to fall apart, your mind will quickly follow. I planned on suing the OW as well for Alienation of Affection. So I guess that is the closest I will get to remorse. Besides IT JUST COULDNT BE. He is running true to the Cheaters Manual. Over the course of the next several months, it was like a switch went off with her. The 180 method seems like game playing a bit. He woke up and started crying b/c of the A and what he put me through. Is he afraid to stand up to his meddling and toxic parents that he wants R? He knows hes being an asshole and being an asshole is hard to accept for cheaters. <3, http://forums.delphiforums.com/ASPartners. when you say you stopped playing nice how long did it take for him to ping back to you? And once I restored my confidence and self esteem I took back my power in the relationship. I can only give you hope that your H comes back. I hear you about anxiety. When I fell down, you were on my mind. Your life is not over. Because of this, they do not communicate their feelings to their spouse. I think let it be for a while. Awwww. So while I challenged him and called him on his behavior I was nave enough to believe his words. His current thesis is that Ill be fine because my family will take care of me. You have your life to live and make it the best one for you; whether hes a part of it or not. Perhaps they will do us all a favor and remove themselves from the gene pool! ! Kind makes the crying baby on a flight look normal. This is a question to myself and I do not have an answer since both narcissists and non-narcissists engage in family and spouse abandonment. He can go do his sport and never even needs to let me when he will be back. We were young (about 20), but still. They dont give a damn for anyone but their own comfort. LOL. Local police speculated publicly that Wilbanks' disappearance might be "a case of the premarital jitters," but the search continued. Speaking of the A, H 100% confirmed it was over yesterday and she is not even in my phone and when I looked skeptical, he offered it to me to check. Yes he was gone for 3 months. She would have left kind of confused I think. Weve grown apart Smh. You must have done a lot of running to get through it. He walked out of the bathroom and a few minutes later he called me into the kitchen. Immediately. And yesthe sadness can be overwhelming. All of a sudden, things that seemed one way morph into another. Technology makes an EA easier to build and to maintain.The bond of Us v Wife is easy to do when you can continually seem connected to each other regardless of location or time zones and a lot of these convos take place late at night or early in the morning when people are either tired (easy to manipulate) or fresh (no distractions so laser focus). Im not surprised that everyone here has had the same physical symptoms and yet none of our spouses seem to think they have anything to do with it. It happens. The screenplay, written by Sara Parriott and Josann McGibbon, is about a reporter (Gere) that is assigned to write a story about a woman (Roberts) who has left a string of fiancs at the altar. Saying stuff like that is equal to saying women get raped because they dress provocatively. I have complete control of my life and am much stronger. IT SUCKS. I believe he has a whole new level of respect for me these days!! Well today he gets a few hard limits that will really test his measure. I too felt sorry for my H b/c I thought his A was over but he was still struggling with us. Yeah my h was that certain age where he was possibly feeling all that old age stuff. Satori Now what?]. He is the guy you would bet $ on he would never cheat. The face is the same but their soul and their heart are gone somewhere else. But I think again it was just syaing it as he thought he should. Textbook red flags that I simply never recognized because? That he needed to be accountable for that. we laughed about the mess and I said I would clean up the mess and we could get ready. Such a relief not to be in the struggle zone. Since when? I am still confused.and will probably never understand what went so very wrong. Satori April 26, 2005 Mason notified police that Wilbanks was missing two hours after she failed to return from her evening jog. Again, I dont know. Let's say a girl likes two guys. Everything, everything will be just fine and everything, everything will be alright. Emphasis on the may and only with irrefutable proof the EA has ended and the Runaway H has a plan to make clear his complete remorse and urgent amends on all fronts. I worked out the reason H pretended to move to distant area was that its a way of having the pity party and woe is me, Im being more impacted than you are in all this. Its a precursor though, for sure. That is until the time was right for them. As a typical cheater he blames you for it. I doubt whether there would be a change in circumstances if you knew before he left or not (about the A). Only in this case it is possible to forget about such a phobia, like the runaway bride syndrome. Im sorry I didnt respond. The past and their BS are simple casualties of their selfish egos. Regardless, its the supportive message that is important and that is what you get here, support. I fortified that shit. What Is a Walkaway Wife? He gave no indication he was unhappy. Again, I understand this journey is about putting energy into me and not him however I am a person that needs to process everything. Hope you are all well and happy. We all choose our path to R or to D. I chose to love unconditionally trying every day to live with grace, humility, and forgiveness. But you must get your sleep in order to function properly and be effective the next day. Well he got it in spades!!! Again. On May 22, 2006, People magazine reported that Wilbanks and Mason had officially called off their engagement. From scratch. The last two lines are this, I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. LOL, we all know that was disingenuous. The 'runaway bride' who once faked her own kidnapping to get out of a wedding is now divorced Samantha Grindell Jennifer Wilbanks got divorced 16 years after she falsely claimed she was kidnapped three days before her wedding. If you change your expectations then you will be less surprised and hurt by her. Hugs and prayers for you and your son. Defs going to wear the ToughiePants and The BitchBoot going forward. Thats the biggest thing to keep control of going forward. Dont hate her just dont like wearing hearing aids all the time. Write down your thoughts and plans and then let it go for a while. Reconciliation is a rebuilding and a new beginning. 2015 was a wreck. Cant go back. Youre correct your primary responsibility is to your son and his well being. I think you have that as part of your unique challenge an A ruins a M but can kill your business and financially ruin you as well. Mine is anxiety . So many do thinking another person will make them happy and eliminate their troubles. Its a bit like remorse, you know when its real. FWIW.]. At least 50 per cent of all people getting married get a case of either cold feet or seem to have feet that want to run away from the altar. Im intelligent (according to my Dad this was the ONLY positive thing my FIL said about me LOL) so I will be fine in the case of D and should just go and get a job. There are only two ways this plays out: divorce or reconciliation. Well by my experience I have to say yes. If so, would love to hear how you managed to reconcile after such a traumatic experience. Thanks for the recommendations to self focus. Stay professional about that. Im certain he was crying to her that you intended to wreck him financially. But it may be too late b/c he can only damage your M so much before it is beyond repair. Youve heard of fight or flight when things get tough? It doesnt appear he will change his path. Once the lines start blurring things go down hill. Like, if you were starting again, at the beginning when you met them, what would the signs be? If there were ever a reason to grieve it has got to be the loss of love. If you are in this situation and especially have kids, the advice I offer is to distance yourself immediately from your significant other. After a few more phone calls, and at about 19:00, it was formally announced that the wedding, which was supposed to begin at 20:30, was canceled. I let him move in with me and h. I had so much fun with him. We both had the blessed iPhone. People who refuse to accept any responsibility for the pain they cause (the CS blaming the BS as a reason to cheat). Wow TFW, you are a beautiful wife! I do think her visit with champagne was part fishing expedition on her sons behalf. Hmmm. It doesnt make any difference what label you put on what your husband has done. Im thinking H will never get it in terms of the impact. Another challenge but thats 2017 right? Boom, the words "runaway bride" have been said. STOP PLAYING HER GAME! I am happy this issue is more discussed today, end that there seems to be help available, among other places online. Well I knew a little bit about addiction as far as alcohol and drugs and what happened there. No way to know for sure. But not after totally securing my home! I mean how appropriate was that? You have to go through it, theres no way around it, and it sucks big time. But they knew. Its mystifying to me how they are all the same! Although this kind of act rather characterizes the unstable character of the one who despaired of it. Come to think of it, thats not a bad nickname for H. I mean he is representing for the Runaway H Olympics. She stood there in shock as everything I said was the exact path it followed. ]. One of the symptoms that not many people realize that is associated with mosquito borne illnesses, is depression and anxiety. Lesson learned. Or maybe just a glutton for punishment. She has stopped telling me she loves me. AS I said to TFW above, Im NC and today will be Day 6. Her response: Read this carefully, and twice if necessary to get the full impact: You can multitask? Ive been putting in strong boundaries with anyone in my orbit. I was willing to give him all the time and space he needed. Its a tough one, and I am not sure yet. It is my turn now. They just worked together. But again, thanks for the pearls of wisdom. Confused CS is exactly right. For H: alcohol addiction, love addiction (avoidance of intimacy and fear of abandonment), social anxiety and possible personality disorder in my H, exacerbated by midlife crisis. The locks / codes to the property were changed after DDay 1 on the recommendation of my lawyer. I was done, over it, stay the eff out of my life. My H is treating me the exact same way you describe your W behaved. It soundsikr he had checked out if life in general. Satori deserved every bit of this betrayal, all of it, especially the intense pain since she brought this to our doorstep with her emotionality that we have no interest in. Im so grateful to be in contact with a few like minded souls on here. Breathe. Im most def NOT a doctor or a psychologist!! I already had the locks changed and had a letter to get some basic understanding about the business end of financials. I feel your pain!!! He kept trying to contact me with, ostensibly, regards to our taxes. My wife seemed had seemed off for a while but nothing dramatic. Our lives have been turned upside down by a spouse who became more concerned with me than we. I fear he will only make you feel worse (as if you dont feel like you are in a black hole right now). LOL!! except my friends here. Or not. A hike, a walk anything out of the house. his behavior in one day went from I love you to I want a D To I love you and want to be married to you. I might nominate myself next. Yes, we are together. Thank you ALL for the fresh perspective on the PILs etc. Stay strong and know you arent battling this alone. Satori- My wife made no effort in making things better, at least early on. Satori Post nup signed. He kept saying I needed to give back the cash that I took from our joint account and I kept telling him to go fuck himself! Yes, blood is thicker than water.that is for sure. Like never. H is cancelling MIL now so maybe there is a small opening. Its like agame for them. Was still in shock. I will apologize to no one. It is good to hear your survival story TFW, the flip flopping of your H mirrors what mine is doing. i think you have handled yourself well. No,MLC is not a recognized medical syndrome but that doesnt mean it doesnt have a medical cause. A good Christian? She tried to convince me she never loved her last husband but her Facebook page is full of reminders of their love. I described to my wife exactly how her affair played out. I just thought what Sarah said was so important but it is something that really takes time and a laser focused approach to pull off successfully. So Im not saying this will happen to you and your case but it just might. Only THEN did we go to MC inernest. ta pakait sareng karakter anu hariwang sareng curiga, nalika anjeunna (anjeunna), kusabab alesan pribadi sareng sosial, sieun nikah. There are so many similarities between MLCers from different cultures. Cause I got to tell ya it all looks the same to me and surely not everyone is having an MLC. My honest opinion is that after you found your inner bad-ass you handled your situation the best way possible. Some runaway brides jilt their potential grooms, because most of their lives, they have always tended to run away from serious problemsthis is their way of coping with difficult challenges. I dont buy that its a MLC so it just happens. If people dont know who they are they truly mirror whoever they are around. Homecoming and all that. It was end it now or face divorce. 1. Hell even my hair hurt during that grief time. I think she knew about his A. Thats why she wasnt being supportive of me early on. Further humiliation. WTF was he thinking??? . Throughout all of this there was not any genuine remorse or much discussion, a few mumbled apologies about the mess he created. Im not in a great place right now but thank you for all your thoughtulness. And then possible about-face / asking for forgiveness. It makes me unable to do very much and I am normally high functioning. Give me just enough info hoping Id throw him to the curb. He is not showing remorse or concern about anyone but himself. Just like the name sounds, this is an undercover narcissist. In some places in the world, this penalty (very wrongly and cruelly) still stands. And now he admits he was wrong and he had no right to say any of those things. It seems things are going to have to sink in for a while. Soulmate crap. The reasons can be very different. What the fuck did you do? That seemed to be what happened the other day. This is a bigger decision than saying yes when your husband proposed. He is not committing to anything. Let their good for nothing golden child suckel off them for a while they think hes so great. I would also suggest, if you are interested in learning about narcissism and sociopathy, are the books In Sheeps Clothing and The Sociopath Next Door. I already had an early MIL encounter early in the A (before Dday) and my MIL said to me; You and I are very different Satori, Im a realist. Him walking around angry b/c his OW left him or he couldnt be with her. So, I might not respond to the message. I need the shit to get super real, super fast for him. These were very trusted and old friendships to start with. What I dont get is that your H admits A is going on but yet still tries to circumvent the fact he is MARRIED!!!!! It is so darn confusing when you are in the middle of grief but I like how it explains that grief is different from bereavement. Thats when I left for Colarado. The long distance aspect for sure adds to the allure. In any event I think you need to re-group and move. When he refused to go to MC that was pre-DDay1. I mean I went driving around in my pajamas, with a mallet in my car while on that stuff. Thats why I said it comes down to boundaries, integrity, and character. 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